THE GAIN OF PATIENCE

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             While I was reading this story, part of me was sympathetic over the situation of these young men. But the truth is what befell them was the expected end of the path they treaded. They wanted to go ahead of time but a police arrest was the result they got. These men are bright men to go by their profile but they allowed the pressure of making it quick swallow their mind.

              As I sat on my bed meditating on this story, I ask myself, What is it with this generation and                 speed, nobody wants take the long and lasting route, everybody now moves towards the short route. But the truth is that the long route is always the lasting one because lessons learnt during the journey will make you stand during the time of affliction.people who took the short cut would always fade away.

       Patience, my friend is the key.do not try to run ahead of time, instead run with time. Although the journey may seem a little bit long, be assured that the fruits of waiting patiently will last.

As for those young men, the time they were trying to outrun will now teach them a lesson that patience is a very important companion when treading the road of success. Stay blessed

5 QUESTIONS YOU SHOULD ASK YOURSELF BEFORE GOING INTO A RELATIONSHIP

 

Most people go into intimate relationships without having a knowledge of what they are going into no wonder there is a a very high rate of breakups and disappointment in relationships. With my understanding and knowledge on the issues of relationships I give you 5 QUESTIONS YOU MUST ASK YOURSELF BEFORE GOING INTO A RELATIONSHIP

1)      IS THIS THE RIGHT TIME FOR ME?: This question of timing is personal and it has nothing to do with what the society or your family demands, it even has very little to do with Age. It is a matter of you and how you can balance the demands of a relationship with the demands of your career or your present engagements.

2)      WHAT ATTRACTED ME TO THIS PERSON?:This question is very important because you attracted is most likely what will sustain you in the relationship if things don’t go as planned. Are you attracted by his or her physical beauty? Physical beauty will always fade away and therefore not be a foundation in your relationship. Be attracted by thing is unseen(inner beauty) for they last longer than the physical things.

3)      WHAT IS MY PURPOSE FOR GOING INTO THIS RELATIONSHIP? : In everything you do including relationships you must always define purpose.it is often said that where purpose is not defined, abuse is inevitable. Are you going into a relationship because you think you are old enough? Or you want to satisfy your deep hunger for love, affection or intimacy? Or is it because all your friends are in a relationship?  . IF your purpose for going into a relationship is faulty there is a very high tendency that the relationship will fail.

4)      AM I MATURED ENOUGH FOR A RELATIONSHIP? : Don’t be ashamed or embarrassed to ask yourself this question. Maturity is not by age maturity is of the mind, it is by understanding. Ask yourself if you can manage the emotional feelings of a totally different person from you, have you even been successful in managing your own feelings and emotions not to talk of that of another person. Also character comes into maturity ( what are the values you that make up who you truly are)

5)      DOES MY PROSPECTIVE PARTNER ALIGN WITH MY FUTURE GOALS AND PLANS? : You wouldn’t want to jeopardize your dreams and glorious future you picture for a relationship. This question is very important even before marriage. Even though the person is all you dream of in terms of physical and inner beauty, ask yourself if the person can be an agonist for the fulfilment of your future goals or an antagonist.

Friend If After Asking These Questions And Your Answers Are Positives, I Recommend You Are Good To Go. But If You Have Two or More Negative Answers I Advise You Reconsider Your Decision Before Taking The Next Step.

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